An external locus of control style like yours is something you likely developed as a consequence of successes or failures were misattributed to luck, or being shielded from consequences or having much done for you by your Primary Care giver. This mindset leads to lower motivation, powerlessness, higher stress, and blameing external factors for successes and failures, which can result in poorer performance and decreased well-being. Help is at hand. Book a session with Ryan to understand how you can pull yourself back from the brink and remain firmly in the realm of security in love.